We have all found ourselves in a difficult position where we just want to kick ourselves for ending up in yet another dilemma! Carolyn returns to offer you the guidance you may need.
It’s all too easy to feel like we’re never in our own space – be it in the home or work place. When our friends and family ask something of us – whatever the favour is – even if we’re feeling low and tired, we tend to reply ‘yes’ without even thinking. But if we’re always saying yes to everyone and everything, we can begin to feel that we’re running around putting others firsts and ourselves last. This creates resentment, and we can soon feel unhappy and drained.
I feel there’s a balance to be found here; naturally juggling giving and receiving by monitoring what is being asked of you and how often. There needs to be an exchange of energy, so that we can pick and choose when we say yes in a way that allows us to put ourselves first when we need to. If it’s not a good time for you – consider saying no. It’s natural to feel guilty but once we feel secure and confident, and respect our feelings, others will do the same. They’ll know that you’re still there for them – and will still offer to help – but when it’s right for you.
It’s useful to remember this in any area where your good nature could be taken advantage of – especially in the workplace, where too much could be asked of you. So, become aware of your thoughts and feelings and the effect on you of what is asked of you. Adjust to giving and taking, and making healthy relationship changes.
Love & Light.
Carolyn
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